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It’s week 26 of the year. We are halfway there to the end of the year. After January, it always feels like the year flies by and if you aren’t intentional you will look up and Christmas will be here.

If you are anything like me, you made plans and or goals earlier in the year and you veered off course.

It’s natural to have detours and get off course when you are working on something. The important thing is how quickly you recover and reset.

In the game of basketball, there are tons of shots taken. Some shots go into the basket and some hit the rim. While the goal is to have all the shots in the basket, the players understand if they don’t make it in the basket, the next important thing is retrieving the rebounded ball to shoot again.

This teaches, we may not be 100% on our goals and that’s okay. But after you realize this, what are you going to do about it?

I think for me this year, I have so many things I’m working on, I’ve had to narrow down my focus and be intentional about how I spend my time. Some weekends can be jammed packed with great things going on. My reset now includes doing as much as possible during the week to set myself up for success on the weekends. For me, this means prepping a blog on Thursday, utilizing my task app for reminders, adding events to my calendar as a reminder, and then revisiting my goals as often as needed to recalibrate and readjust.

So while we are halfway there to the end of the year, what does a reset and readjustment look like for you?

Here are 3 Questions to help with our reset:

1. What are our current goals for the year and do we still desire the same goals?
2. What adjustments do we need to make to obtain our goals?
3. How can we hold ourselves accountable and add achievement markers to celebrate our wins?

Remember, reset, refocus, readjust, restart – As many times as you need to. Just never give up. – Author Unknown

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Last week’s blog: Selective Amnesia

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Have you ever experienced selective amnesia?

I have…but before I move forward let me give you my definition of selective amnesia.

Selective Amnesia is when you forget something took place, but this usually only occurs when it is to your benefit.

Has this happened to you?

Recently someone was sharing a story with me about how they messed something up. While I didn’t verbalize my concerns to them I had so many ideas in my head of what they could have done better to prevent this – sort of like I know best and if I was them I wouldn’t have made this mistake.

I had several preventive solutions for this person when I forgot I had the same thing that almost happened to me last week.  🙃

#selectiveamnesia

Once I remembered my situation, I realized how quickly I forgot my situation. I’m human too and I’m very capable of making lots of mistakes. 😩

As the saying goes, you point a finger at someone else and have many more pointed back at you.

At that moment, I immediately changed my response to them. I showed them compassion and grace. It shouldn’t have taken me remembering my situation to have compassion for someone else; therefore I’ll do better at implementing this going forward.

After hearing a sermon titled, “Under the C”, I felt compelled to watch The Little Mermaid. While watching the movie, I realized there appeared to be similarities in themes to The Lion King. Now, in full disclosure, the observations I’m noting are about The Little Mermaid in which Ariel is Halle Bailey since that’s the only Little Mermaid I’ve watched.

While some may disagree with my observations, here are the 8 similarities I noted between both movies:

8 Similarities B/t The Lion King and the Little Mermaid 🧜🏾‍♀️

1. Both Ariel and Simba come from royal families and their father’s were king
2. Both were leered away by an aunt or uncle who didn’t have their best interest at heart. Simba by Scar. Ariel by the Ursula.
3. Their dads assigned someone to watch after them. Simba – Zazu; Ariel – Sebastian
4. Both desired to be somewhere their parents told them not to go. Simba – pride land; Ariel – sea wreckage and on land
5. They were both taken in by someone or something when they were away from their family. Simba – Timeon and Pumba; Aries – a royal family
6. The songs have similar melodies; The Lion King, I Just Can’t-Wait to Be King, and The Little Mermaid Under the Sea.
7. They both go on an adventure with their love interest. Simba and Nala go on their adventure in the forest. Ariel and go on their adventure with the carriage and ends up in a boat in a rainforest.
8. They both have to fight and kill their antagonist aunt or uncle to save the throne.

To summarize the similarities, there are two royal characters, who are wooed away from their family by an antagonist family member. While away, they find a love interest, have to return home due to conflict, and have to fight the antagonist’s uncle/aunt. After they win the fight it ends with them with their new love interest.

Feel free to comment below if you agree are indifferent or disagree! I look forward to your comments!

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Last week’s blog: Lead with love 

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Over the last week, every time I’m frustrated with someone or something, I remember I need to flip the mirror and look back at me.

Am I leading with love?

I’m sure there are a plethora of examples of when  God is frustrated with me. But, even when he’s frustrated, his correction is done from a place of love.

He even gave us his son, Jesus, because he loved us.

“For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.” John‬ ‭3‬:‭16‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Additionally, the greatest commandment in the Bible reminds us to love.

“Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?” Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭22‬:‭36‬-‭39‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Reminding myself of this caused me to change my heart posture. I wanted my words and actions to be rooted in love.

Leading with love allowed me to approach others with empathy and compassion before I responded back to anyone and to ensure I was coming from a place of love.

I have to say, I’m not going to always get this right. However, I’m never striving for perfection, only progress. Therefore, I can give myself grace and correct next time.

I’m sure we can all agree the world needs more people leading with love.

What action will you to take to lead with love this week?

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Prior week: The Best 10 Beach Travel Necessities

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Sometimes I feel stuck – you know like you are working on that math problem and you can’t quite figure out the next step. I’m asking myself what am I supposed to do next. How do I get unstuck? 

Besides the Bible (Basic Instruction Before Living Earth) our life doesn’t come with a play-by-play book with Mapquest directions that says turn left or right – you have reached your next destination. Wouldn’t that be great?

Instead, life is full of choices with consequences and or rewards depending on our decisions. But what about when you feel stuck?

Of course, I’ve felt the overwhelming stress of feeling stuck several times. I share below some practical advice I use when I feel stuck. I hope it helps you and you share with someone else!

My Unstuck List…

1. Make a list of 25 things I’m grateful. Nothing shifts my heart posture like gratefulness.
2. I go read old blog posts or words of encouragement I wrote or that God gave me.
3. I also read my favorite chapter – Psalms 139. Pause and go read it now, come back, and let me know what you think.
4. I go talk to God – whether it is journaling praying or talking out loud. Sometimes my prayers are silent. God hears my written prayers and he knows my thoughts – so he can still speak to my heart.
5. After speaking to God, I usually have a next step and I work on that. So if the step is to work on a book – I’ll try to make that task more actionable by dividing it into smaller steps and making a checklist. I love checking things off a list because it makes me feel accomplished. 😂
6. If I still feel stuck, I’ll take a walk. God is always speaking even through creation. While on the walk I’ll listen to my favorite worship songs or turn on one of my favorite speakers – Pastor Robert Madu or Dr. Darius Daniels. My personal favorites.
7. If this persists the next day, I’ll start back over at step one and focus on releasing my worries to God.

“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.” James‬ ‭1‬:‭5‬ ‭NLT‬‬

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Is Summer Vacation Coming?

The kids are out of school! 🙌🏽

Are you traveling to a 🏖️ ?

Then you clicked on the right post! Listen, I’m coming off of time off from work and I could honestly schedule more time! 😂 Honestly just take me to a place with palm trees, beautiful sea water and a nice cool drink. I’ll be good to go!!! 

But what are those essential things needed for vacation? We may have some of the things at home and need this reminder blog post to pack them. I’ll share my list below! 

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1. Oversized button down. I wear my button down as a cover up for my swim suit.
2. Sunscreen – I prefer black girl magic kid – SPF 50
3. Bug Spray because mosquitos are disrespectful. 
4. Shades! Cheap shades work for me because I constantly lose them. 😩
5. Battery Pack! There’s nothing worse than a dead phone.
6. A good book! I love getting lost in a good book while relaxing.
7. Cash money! Cash is King for traveling especially for bartering.
8. Reusable water bottle. I have a small yeti which is my favorite!
9. Waterproof phone case
10. Tote Bag

While I usually pack other items these are my go to essential items!

Because I couldn’t stop at 10, here’s one bonus item – swim shoes! I usually forget them 😩, but when I don’t they are my favorite!

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