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Sometimes I sit down and wonder did God call me to do this or that?

Am I able to accomplish it?

Can I do it?

Do y’all deal with self-doubt too or is it just me?

I heard this recently in a sermon and it made sense.

Everything begins with a thought. You can choose to entertain that thought or replace it with the truth of God.

For example, I’m sitting in a conference room moving a vase and didn’t want to drop it so l pushed it down the table. As I pushed it down the table I said,” I am clumsy and then l knocked over a glass of water.” While it felt like that statement validated what happened, l reminded me there is power in my words. So, at that moment l immediately stated I spilled the water, but I’m not clumsy.

I know this may sound small, but small habits are changed when you recognize them and take steps to change them.

Now I practice evaluating my thoughts and replacing them with the words of God. Even if I have to repeat the same scripture over and over until I believe it and it becomes a part of my psyche.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21

This weekend I went to hang out with some friends at a restaurant. So, like some of you I love to plan what I am going to wear in advance in hopes it will allow me to get dressed faster. However, I quickly learned you can have a plan, but it may change real fast. Okay back to the story. lol. As I changed clothes on Friday night and put on my dress because I absolutely love dresses – my zipper broke on a brand-new dress. I attempted to try on my back up dress, but I didn’t like it.

After the dress mishap, I took down my hair and realized my curling rods didn’t curl any of my hair. In fact, my hair looked a hot mess. At this point, I am frustrated, and I had a whole melt down. My initial fixed though mindset was to cancel everything! But, after quickly pulling myself together I snapped out of my fixed mindset and thought of how can I apply a  growth mindset to this situation. What can I do to enjoy the evening and how can I improvise with my hair? Well, if you swipe over, I share a picture of my outfit and my hair. I’m thankful I was quickly able to change my thinking and focus on a solution vs. the problem.

QOTD: How can you apply a growth mindset to a challenge you faced today or even over the weekend?

My favorite quote: It always seems impossible, until it is done. – Nelson Mandela

We may make our plans, but God has the last word. Proverbs 16:1

A week ago, I was preparing to wash off some grapes I had purchased and I realized one of the grapes was rotted. I quickly checked the grapes surrounding this one particular grape and realized other grapes were no longer edible due to their proximity to the rotten grape, so I threw them away.

Listen Proximity matters!

Especially, when it comes to your community of friends. While we don’t get to pick the family we are born into, we get to pick if we want to befriend someone. Be sure you have friends in your community who are like-minded.

The scripture says, “Iron sharpens iron.” (Proverbs 27:17) Use wisdom to ensure, there are no spoiled grapes in your community.

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” I Corinthians 15:33

I’ve recently watched Inventing Anna and the Tinder Swindler. If you watched them, share your thoughts below in the comments and if you haven’t watched them, check them out on Netflix.  (Sidenote: Has anyone noticed Netflix keep increasing their bill – like Geesh everything is increasing in price.) 😩🙃

Okay, I was distracted,  but back to my story. 😂

In case you haven’t seen them here a Quick Summary of Both Shows: The series are based on true stories, in which both of the portrayed individuals change their names and utilize other people and resources in unorthodox ways to try and gain wealth and status.

First I want to say, I don’t agree with the actions from both shows and neither do I encourage or recommend anyone to recreate what they did to others. However, because I believe I can learn something from everything, it was interesting to see their confidence. For starters both individuals convinced themselves and others they were someone wealthy with a stellar family pedigree. In addition to them convincing themselves and others, they also acted upon and implemented strategies to get the resources they wanted to live the life they wanted and so much more.

After watching all of the episodes, I sat and thought about how beneficial it would be if we believed in ourselves and implemented the goals and strategies we want to accomplish our dream job or to launch our own company. With God’s help and our action – we could be unstoppable!

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phillipians 4:13

As we wrap up this month with blogs focusing on all things American Black Culture, I want you to take a moment and consider your favorite enjoyable thing about American black culture. Whether it is the versatility of our hairstyles and hair textures, our music, the food, our style of clothing, or even our language between each other. Like there are some things we just know and it doesn’t have to be verbalized. Like your mom giving you a side-eye, you and your friend making that connecting glance, and y’all both spot the same thing or the trash-talking during a game of spades or dominoes. It’s all a part of what makes us, who we are.

As Black History Month is coming to a close, we still have every day to celebrate who we are. No day or month on the calendar will change my gratefulness for being a proud black woman.

“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” Psalms‬ ‭139:14‬ ‭NLT‬‬