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Are You Asking The Right Questions?

Posted on By wrenhowsway

I heard a sermon a couple of weeks ago by Pastor Robert Madu in which he talked about the importance of asking the right questions. I began to ponder on the many times, I’ve asked God and others the wrong questions. Sometimes the wrong question led to no response at all. ?

My honesty moment: At the beginning of the pandemic I asked God several questions – one, in particular, was why are you allowing me to go through this pandemic alone? A whole me going through this alone. ?? If I had to pick a single season- it would not be a global pandemic. Ijs.

After a while, I began to adjust to my new normal of being at home and switched my focus to so many other things. I begin to pray and study the word more. I was now more concerned with maximizing this season versus complaining and having a woe is me attitude.

I also noticed that my question to God also changed to God why not me? ??

I’m grateful for all this time I’ve had to learn, grow, and focus on the most important relationship in my life – with God. I’ve begun to tap into my gifts and the Holy Spirit has been talking and I’m tuned in to hear?. I’m thankful this pandemic gave me the opportunity to cultivate my relationship with God and begin to ask the right questions.

“To everything, there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:”

Ecclesiastes 3:1 KJV

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Uprooted

Posted on By wrenhowsway

In the past couple of months, I have purchased two plants and will purchase more soon. One thing I noticed about one of my plants is that it should have been replanted. The plant had outgrown the vase and had no more room to grow.

The roots of plants need room to grow, so the plant can grow properly. As uncomfortable as it is for the roots of a plant to be uprooted – it has to be done to facilitate growth.

As I thought about the replanting process, I thought about my own life. God has been uprooting unhealthy things in me that needed to be addressed, so that I can grow in my spiritual walk. Uprooted things can range from unhealthy eating to thoughts, attitudes, and past decisions. Whew…

Most of the things that were uprooted were not things that are visible to most by a mere physical appearance. The things that really have to be uprooted are the small things that you can hide from most people.

How do you even deal with unhealthy things when they are uprooted?

I had to go back to the one true source – which is the Bible. The roots of certain unhealthy things can run so deep that they aren’t easy to walk away from alone. For me, I had to ask God for forgiveness, confess to someone (it helps to foster the healing process), find accountability partners, and be willing to share my truth even if I felt completely exposed at that moment. After that moment – I realized how freeing it was for me.  I also found comfort in knowing, that:

“If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” John‬ ‭8:36‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Question of the Day: Have God uprooted something in you? What did your healing process look like?

 

Happy Birthday, Shay

Posted on By wrenhowsway

To my much older sista! It’s your birthday! Don’t worry, I won’t tell anyone your age. ? In my head, you will always be my younger/older sister. Because it’s your birthday I have to share a story or two with everyone, it’s only right. Lol.

Storytime: I can think of two cooking stories right off in which we definitely messed up some food, but I’ll share one.

So, flashback to at least 10 plus years ago my sister and I wanted dressing for the holidays and my mom told us she wasn’t cooking. Instead of cooking my mom told us the list of the ingredients to include for the dressing. My mom warned us not to put too much sage in the dressing because it could make us sick. So instead, my sister and I opted and didn’t put any sage in the dressing. The dressing is usually like the staple for the holiday meal, but not that year. Instead, we had a big pan of veggies with cornbread.? #epicfail lol

When we were younger, my sister and I were always together growing up, especially on the weekend. All we needed was bus fare and we would be gone all day. Side note: I needed bus fare because she always had money growing up because she was great at saving, which I always admired about her.

She’s an awesome mom, a great friend, and an amazing sister. Low-key she is probably the funniest of all us. So today on your birthday, I hope you have an amazing day and many more birthdays to come!

Love Your Younger Sis!

Wren

“She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.”

Proverbs 3:15 KJV

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99 In A Half Won’t Do…Keep It 100

Posted on By wrenhowsway

I’m dancing into my 100th blog!!!? I’m grateful for this opportunity to share my faith, the ups and down of my life and my growth. Welcome to my life journey. We have discussed so many topics from working out, break ups, friendships, self care and so much more. When I first started blogging, I never thought I would be blogging this long, but I’m glad I continued. Thank you for sticking with me! I’m leveling up with God’s help of course and we are just getting started. Let me get into this blog. Lol.

Story-time: Y’all dating in America- is for the birds. You really have to be patient. I told God last week, you must have someone amazing for me after these weird stories. Like I can’t even get past a first date without telling someone, alright I’m about to head out. Lol. More than ever I’m thankful to God for clarity. I went from being texted a mean hashtag about myself to sending a guy back his money from a first date. I can’t make this up. #thestruggle

I’ve taken a few L’s this with dating this year – the L is for lessons! I’ll share a few things below.

Lessons Learned from Dating:

1. Pray. Ask God for clarity, wisdom and understanding before you make a decision to move forward.
2. Pay attention to red flags. God gives women intuition. Use it.
3. Never be afraid to walk away from someone. Both of yall have a choice to decide if you want to move forward.
4. Have fun. Dating is all about getting to know someone. Enjoy the process of learning about someone else.
5. Ask the tough questions, while dating.
6. Involve trusted friends in the process. Other people can see things, that you may not see.

7. If you have to change a lot of stuff about someone to make them attractive for you, then they may not be the one.

What are some things you learned while dating out of you ever dated before?

Scripture: Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs‬ ‭3:5-6‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Leggo My Ego

Posted on By wrenhowsway

 

Ladies, this weekend I had to try on a pair of jeans to make sure they still fit. Have y’all tried on a pair jeans lately? ? Anywho – That’s not what I wanted to chat about. Lol

I wanted to talk about examining your heart. I’ve been on this journey examining my heart for the past few months and asking God to reveal things to me that I can work on. Once I become aware of something, I take time to examine the issue, determine the root cause and pray about it so I can try to exhibit more God qualities.

Story time: I casually brought this topic up last week in a post, but I want to elaborate a little further. I’ve noticed occasionally I like to be right when I’m talking. For example, when I have a conversation with someone and they say something wrong – I have to immediately correct them like I’m the conversation police. ? #thatissoannoying

First of all – why do I feel the need to correct them and secondly, when I correct them what do it prove? It proves absolutely nothing. I had to come to grips with a very harsh reality for myself – its an ego problem. #OUCH

How do you address any problem?

You go back to the source – “the Bible”. God designed it so that it really has an answer for EVERYTHANG! So, in addition to reading the Bible about scriptures about my heart, I am also practicing the shut up spirit. Sometimes, I have to caution myself to be quiet until I can speak things that are edifying to others. Y’all, it isn’t easy all the time, but I know with practice it will be second nature. 

Question of the Day: What is something that you are working on to better yourself?

Scripture: Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23

Blog Link: https://www.wrenhowsway.com/leggo-my-ego/

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No Flex Zone

Posted on By wrenhowsway

I don’t think we completely realize the power and glory that God possess. Sometimes we are so consumed with our current environment that we don’t realize that God’s hands are still protecting us and if he ever flexed his power – Boom! We would all perish instantaneously.

Like – y’all God is so big! I remember my pastor taught a sermon entitled God is so Heavy. He stated when he was growing up heavy was the term they used to call someone the Greatest of All Time (GOAT). The term heaviness gives weight and respect to that person for their greatness.

Well, we know God is so heavy and he is the ultimate GOAT that was, is and is to come. I’m going to share a few of his many flexes with you- you have to read the Bible to find out more. ???

A Few Flexes

Genesis 1:1 – He flexed his power and created the whole world. I’m in awe of him. In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.

Genesis 1:3 – He spoke and said, Let there be light and there was light. #flex

Genesis 2:21-22 He put Adam in a deep sleep, took his rib and made a woman. #flex Adam Lowkey had surgery and was healed by the greatest physician and woke up with a whole wife. #imshook #howsway

Matthew 8:25-27 He rebuked the seas and they immediately calmed down. #flex The men said: Even the winds and waves obey. #flex

Luke 24:6-7 He was crucified and on the third day, he rose again. #theultimateflex

I could go on and on about the many miracles mentioned in the Bible. Reading more about the Bible makes me have a deeper respect and reverence for who he is and what he can do! Just remember, he died on the cross for you, me and everybody else too!

Question of the Day: What’s your favorite thing to read about in the Bible?

“That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”

Romans 10:9 KJV