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Happy New Year!

Happy February!

So my January was so crazy, that I decided that I was going to start the new year all the way over this month. Lol. I will say I learned a few lesson in the month of January that I will share. I will first have to tell you all about my move. I will try to summarize.

Utilize your network of family and friends to assist you when needed.

• I was traveling my move in date and I had to depend on someone else to pickup my keys. I was so stressed worried about, what if they forgot, the office closed early, etc…but the bottom line was there was nothing I could do being over 1,000 miles away, except trust them. Sounds easy, but it is #easiersaidthandone, but they took care of it.

I learned that you can’t control everything.

I scheduled my movers for Saturday morning. As soon as I was headed home from the airport the night before, I received a call from the movers that they would be late. Yall the movers were initially scheduled b/t 9am-10am and they showed up at 3pm. #sigh

And they took 7 hours to move a 1 bedroom apartment. I wanted to complain the entire move, but it was nothing I could do to control or speed up the move. Yelling at them wouldn’t help or make the move go any faster, so I chilled until it was over. The only thing I could control was my attitude and I tried to ensure I showed them grace.

I know this may sound minor, but this was just some of my January. It wasn’t an ordinary month for me, nothing seemed familiar, but I was able to make adjustments to get through some of my harder days last month. I am still excited about 2018 and have my own personal goals that I am working towards. What goals did you set for the new year? How are you doing working towards them?

#February #2018 #goals #1monthdown #11monthstogo #family #friends

So the older I get, the more practical I become with my gift wish list. I’m thankfully at a point now in my life that all of my needs are met and I have very few wants. #blessGod ?? If a friend(s) ask me what I want for Christmas, I always have to decide do I give them my list of cliche items or do I give them my wish list. I’m going to share with y’all my top 4 wish list items.

My Wish List
1. Pay off my Student Loan(s)- a girl is trying to be debt free and buy a house soon.
2. Slide me some money on a car note – I’m so close to paying it off, any help is appreciated. lol
3. Bundles – I need options ?
4. Anonymous Cash? Deposit in my Account ???- I’ll even give God a tithe off of it. lol

A girl can wish right?!!!
On a serious note, I am always happy to see everyone in the Christmas spirit and ready to help someone else. What are you doing this holiday season to help someone? Don’t forget the true meaning of Christmas! What’s on your wish list?

Happy Holidays! Merry Christmas. Feliz Navidad.

For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.

Isaiah 9:6

#Christmas #wishlist #presents #holidays #Jesus

Black Friday. The typical day where Americans spend billions of dollars on stuff. Usually, I don’t participate, but this year I had one thing on my mind, bundles! ? I was off work, I had a plan and I had also been following different distributors on social media so I was prepared to make my cheap bundle purchase. ? Or at least I thought I was. #yikes
Story time: I found an awesome deal that week that started on black Friday. I even told a few friends about it because, sharing is caring. When I logged on my tablet I start reading reviews and received mixed reviews, so I was a little hesitant. One of my friends suggested that I watch some YouTube videos and that was the best decision ever, because I learned the truth, the hair was trash. ??? I spent hours that day searching for reviews, looking up other sites and asking friends for advice. I’m sure I annoyed one of my friends. lol #myapologies Thankfully, I didn’t purchase from that company because my closure would have been empty and my bundles in knots. ? So, because I am in no shape or form a hair guru, I suggest that you do your research before you purchase any hair. Empty bundles do not whip back and forth. lol All bundle hair is not created equally and remember with bundles it is all about quality versus price. I did purchase from someone else and I love my hair, I’ll post a pic below.

P.S. I rather wear a bun than to have empty bundles.

But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
1 Corinthians 11:15 KJV

Waking up to the smell of blue magic hair grease, eco style gel, a hot comb burning on the stove and curling irons in the bathroom was my family Sunday morning ritual getting ready for church. Growing up in a house with six sisters was definitely an experience I will cherish for ever.
Going to church together was one of our fondest memories. Our mother took us to church faithfully and we would often arrive before the deacon could even get to the front door  to unlock it. We went to Sunday school, bible study, weekly revivals and if we couldn’t attend church for some odd reason, we had church at home. ???
The older ones combed the younger ones hair and ensured we were ready for service. Other frequent memories we experienced together are from learning movie quotes and gospel songs. I can easily text any of them randomly right now and quote, “Til you do right by me, everything you even think about will fail” and they will finish the next line from the movie, The Color Purple.
With so many girls in the house, there was never a dull moment. Someone was always telling a funny story, blaming someone else for something they did wrong and forcing others to watch something on television we probably didn’t want to watch.
Sisters are your first friends and older sisters are sometimes a second mom. lol My sisters and I fought and made up, formed alliances with each other and probably fought some more. ???? My only fight that I can remember is with my sister, I will admit that I was in the wrong.
Story time: So one of my older sisters was cooking a bologna sandwich in a pan, (the funniest thing is you can’t pay me to eat any type of pork now) ?? , but she was taking too long cooking for me, so I decided to speed up the process. ? Me being the nice sister that I am gently removed her bologna out the skillet and placed it on the stove and put my bologna in the stove so it could cook. I don’t remember much of what took place after that, I can’t even say who hit who first, but we did fight. lol.
With a total of 7 girls in the house including myself, we all had 7 distinctive personalities and gifts. You would think that there are a lot of similarities with the same mom and dad, but nope we are all so different Some are quiet, others are loud, some are fighters, but one thing we share in common is that we all love each other and we have each other back. If you messed with one of us, you pretty much messed with us all. I used to wish that I had an older brother to be over protective, but sisters can be just as over protective as well.
My sisters are irreplaceable. For some crazy reason, God felt that I needed 6 of them. It is not often that we are all together, but we still have family hair days, where you text everybody and we will all meet up at someone’s house and get your hair styled as you would prefer for free 99. Sometimes, they often get on my last nerve, like the very last nerve, but I still love them dearly. Although, I spoke about my sisters, I do have one little brother, who is amazing!

In life we are judged by our choices and decisions. Society often influences our decisions through social media, television and sometimes even our peers. Because we are living in such a tech savvy age, there is this fake time clock that exist at a certain age, usually age 30 for most that one should make this salary, be successful and have your life together. You can sometimes feel this intangible pressure to race to beat the clock. #ticktick The closer I get to 30, I realize that I don’t have to live up to anyone’s expectations for me and my life. I’m okay if I still have questions about life, want to make a career change and I still have goals that I haven’t completed. I’m still asking myself questions like, what do you want to be when you grow up? lol

I was initially that girl that had my 10 year plan…dream job by the age,  married by this age and a child a year later. lol I believe the popular saying goes, it to tell God your plans and he will laugh. I look back on some past experiences and I’m grateful that he blocked it. Yasssssss. lol God designed us all to be uniquely special and gifted in our own way. He cares about each and everyone us to and predestined our future. Like…God even cares enough to want to know the finite detail about us like the number of hairs on our head. #thatscray So with that being said, I realize and sometimes have to remind myself that I don’t have to rush against some imaginary clock that doesn’t exist. If God wanted us to all be the same, he would have designed us this way, but he didn’t boo, so you are good. What may look like success for you, should be different for someone else. Keep making your personal goals, but ensure they are aligned with God’s plans for your life. I’m a planner by nature and live for a calendar invite for tacos, tea and wine. ???? But, sometimes my pretty little calendar is interrupted. #aintnobodygottimeforthat lol

God’s timing is fairly different from my timing and I am learning to stop and see what he is trying to say to me vs. continuously listening to what I am trying to say and tell myself. I am in the process of taking the limits off myself. There isn’t a life rule that you can only have one career in a lifetime, you can have many careers anything you choose. Don’t let anyone put a period on your dreams, where God has only added a comma! Do you boo, as long as you are living and breathing and have active limbs you still have time.

¹¹ For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. – Jeremiah 29:11

This blog is inspired from a conversation I had with a couple of close friends over a month or two ago.  I can’t remember what the conversation was about, I only remember saying I’m going to name my next blog after that, so here it is.

I believe one of the famous Proverbs sayings goes, “It takes a village to raise a child”, and I honestly believe this to be true. But once you are an adult, what happens to your village?

#wheredidmyvillagego lol ????

You still need your small village, aka God, family and friends to help you along your life journey. Life can often be tough from trying to make decisions regarding your career, finances, family, etc. I experienced this first hand this semester with school. I literally wanted to quit my Calculus class every single week. I would tell my close friends, I’m dropping my class today, every single week. I’m sure they are happy to hear that the drop date has passed, so there isn’t any dropping of calculus now bih. ?

Although, the class isn’t over, I have 4.5 weeks to go, so continue to pray for me please. My motivation to stay in the class was from my friends’ constant small reminders of L don’t give up, keep trying, you can do it, you better not drop, even when I would probably text them back nah bruh I’m dropping. Lol They were my constant cheerleaders reminding me to “glow up” to reach my goals. I have continued on with this 7am class, even when I was faking it, like I was making it. I went to tutoring at the math lab, watched YouTube videos of calculus and frequently made appointments with my professor to keep trying. It is essential that you surround yourself with people who encourage you to “glow up” and not give up and that can recognize greatness within you, even when you don’t see it in yourself. My friends and I cheer each other on, all the time. Their successes are my wins because they are part of my circle.  When they glow up, I glow up, because I am excited for them just as if it is my own success. I pray for them, laugh with them and try to let them know I appreciate them.

I am fortunate enough to have a few groups of friends and we are all unique in our own way. In addition to my friends I sought after a mentor who is amazing, I have my church small group and my amazing sisters as well. Above, everyone else, I have God is who always there 24/7!

How do you stay motivated? Who are your “glow up” friends? Comment below, I would love to hear.

 Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of trouble. Proverbs 17:17 MSG

P.S. Stay away from they. – DJ Khalid

I have pasted some pictures below of some of my friends!