Over the past 18 years, a constant learned behavior was to show up for myself and figure things out. #chileigotit This was a continuous phrase I frequently said myself and heard from others.
#storytime For me, this all started in high school when I quickly had to find a way home from school after working nights in addition to taking care of any of my expenses from school.
Often I was hailed by others as responsible and resourceful. Y’all, I knew all the buses in the area and if the buses weren’t running I requested HR to fix my schedule or would have a couple of trusted friends assist. I’m grateful I figured things out; however, on the flip side it ignited a strong independence in me, which I still struggle to ask for help and even when offered I seldom accept it. 😩
Fast forward to recently my beloved, Mona Lisa, my car is in the shop being repaired, which is fine because I work remote. My sister offered to allow me to borrow her car and a friend even insisted on picking me up for church, but I declined. 😩
While, I could have accepted help I opted to enjoy a peaceful long weekend at home working on my book. However, I did have a deep convo with a friend as they asked probing questions regarding my reluctance to receive help. Of course after this discussion, I’ll have to follow up and discuss this subject with my therapist to see what I want my end goal to be, but in the meantime I’ll take baby steps to receiving help from others.
It would be easy for me to close this blog and suggest for y’all to accept help from others, but I won’t. Instead, I’ll say, we are all on our own healing journey from various things. The beautiful thing is we all arrive at a point of awareness on our own time and guess what – that’s our business!
My pray for you is that when you are ready, you will have trusted friends there to walk with you.
Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14 KJV