I can recall a couple of situations in which I was silent after someone said something offensive- whether they were a friend, family member, or a stranger. Initially, I was silent in some situations because I didn’t know what to say or I didn’t want to blow things out of proportion. I’ve learned silence isn’t always golden and sometimes you have to Speak Up for yourself. Now, this post isn’t condoning rude, combative, or disrespectful behavior; however, sometimes a curious question or a graceful statement can be a solution to reset a boundary or bring up a concern.
Storytime:
I found a nail tech who I love and she’s walking distance from me. Y’all she has nail styles pre-picked out for me. #winwin However, last week I went to get my nails done and learned my nail tech is traveling and unavailable for the next three months. 🙃 While, I’m an avid traveler myself – I’m excited for her, but who’s going to do my nails? With outgrown nails I allowed another tech to do my nails. Initially, I thought they looked fine, but once I went home I realized I didn’t like them. I’ve been getting my nails done for over 10 years, but this is the first time I decided to go back and ask them to change my nails because I was dissatisfied. Once she made the changes, my nails looked so much better.
I know this may be a simple example to some, but that’s exactly the point. Anything you practice gets easier over time. If you can’t tell your nail tech, “Can you fix my nails?” – how can you have a tough conversation about anything else?
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Prov. 15:1