Dating in retrospect

A friend recently asked me what I’m learning about myself and what data points I’m gathering in the dating process.

I think it’s important to always define my version of dating.

**Dating, for me, is collecting data. Based on the data collected, a decision is made about whether we should progress.

One of my friends says, “You’re single until you’re married.”* I agree. Most applications—though not all—give you the option to select single, married, divorced, or widowed. There’s no option for “dating.” Think about it. 🤔😂

Okay, back to the post—here’s what I’ve learned about myself:

My Self-Discovery:

1. I’m continuously learning and unlearning. It’s a journey. Whew! I’ve made some mistakes along the way, and I’m sure I’ll make a few more.

2. I have boundaries, but I’m learning to be flexible in how I present them.

3. I’m content if something doesn’t work out with someone. It’s not a failure; it’s a lesson.

4. I continue to show up as authentically as possible.

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What are some data points for you when it comes to:

1. Identifying flags—are they red, yellow, or green?

2. Recognizing whether it was truly a flag or simply a language or cultural communication difference?

3. Asking curious questions—lots of them.

4. Knowing what you need in a relationship and what’s non-negotiable.

Help a sister out!

What are some things you’ve discovered about yourself?

Do you have any data points for evaluation?